Parent Fit – Part One

Is it possible to stay healthy when your world is turned upside down?

When children arrive, all your health goals go out of the window right…?

In February of this year, my wife gave birth to our first child, a beautiful young girl named Lily. If you’ve ever had children, you’ll understand the emotions that come from nowhere when you hold your child for the first time. Everything changes, forever.

The plethora of advice

When it comes to people willing to give advice on a subject, I thought the diet industry was the most prolific. But it’s got nothing on the baby industry! As you may have experienced, from the moment your wife is pregnant, advice flows in from all angles and I must admit, as a complete novice in the area of raising human beings, it all sounded good.

What I’m not such a fan of however, is what usually comes with the advice, the ‘matter of fact’, or ‘world view statements’ such as ‘well that’s the end of you training 3 times a week’ or ‘healthy eating goes out the window with a baby’ or ‘putting weight on is natural when you have kids’.

I understand that many people have good intentions when they say these things, and are often just making polite conversation (the things we say to make small talk is a topic for a whole other day!) People rarely however realise the power of their words. We are a result of our beliefs and core values, and often these can come about merely because they are everyone else’s beliefs and core values.

Have you ever noticed yourself picking up small habits or sayings from the people you hang around the most? Another example is that many people’s weight will actually fluctuate to match the average of the people they hang around the most. These days, the weight usually goes up, and it is justified with world view statements said within the group like ‘well, it’s natural when you get older’.

So shall we just shun everyone and go live on a deserted island with our family? Absolutely not. We are designed to need each other and work together. What I’m suggesting, is we must be careful not to fulfill our need to fit in by taking on other peoples negativity.

Why am I saying this?

Please read this in context, raising children is of course a great challenge and does change everything (at the time of writing this my daughter is only a few months old, so many of you are way ahead of me). You realise how selfish you were and how much time you actually had to spend alone with your wife or give to hobbies.

But I cannot accept that having a child automatically meant you had to sacrifice your health.

So I thought I’d put together a compilation of observations and ideas I’ve had so far, that support a healthy lifestyle whilst raising children.

We’ll kick on with this next week. Until then, I’d like you to question the situations in your life you’d like to change, but you are accepting them because ‘that’s the way they are’. Sometimes we don’t even realise we’re doing this. Hopefully this will be far more than just a guide, it will encourage you to challenge the way you do things for the better.

One Comment

  1. Hannah says:

    Brilliant article Adam :)

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